Thursday, July 19, 2012

In future relationships, should I preemptively spy on my spouse?


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Well since most of you have found out about infidelity the hard way, do you recommend preemptively spying and keeping tabs on your future spouses.

What I mean by that is that instead of waiting for red flags and then acting on them, you will:

(I use the pronoun her but you can use his in your case)

1.) Put a GPS on her car and check it periodically (weekly or biweekly)
2.) Put a VAR in her car and check that periodically.
3.) Install a keylogger on her computer/tablet and check it regularly.
4.) Put spy software on her phone or at least randomly check her messages and out going calls.
5.) Maybe hire a PI if you have money to annually check up on her.

Some of these are extreme but infidelity is an extreme pain so they may be warranted.

Also, I recommend a prenuptial agreement or a postnuptial agreement for anyone worried about getting robbed again in a divorce.

Of course there is the less nuclear options of:

1.) Establish well-defined boundaries
2.) Always wanting transparency
3.) Strongly discouraging opposite gender friends

However, these may not be as effective as the other methods of discouraging or discovering affairs.

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